The Illusion of Control
One of the most lethal behaviors in which we Women Who Do Too Much regularly participate is trying to control ourselves and others (and situations and things!).
What we do is feed our 'Illusion of Control.'
This year, let's take a good look at this illusion and the damage it can cause-- to ourselves, to others, to our relationships, to our work and to our lives.
My reminder is that the only thing we can control is our emotion, our responses, our kindness, our actions, --essentially ourselves, and sometimes not even that much.
I know I struggle with this at times. There are times, I just cannot be bothered with people or things or events. That doesn't always work well, as I coach and have to deal with people.
My answer is to smile. My answer is to smile. My answer is to smile.
Regardless of what comes my way, if I understand that I am not in control, I feel better. It takes the pressure off. Then I can evaluate the situation and make appropriate decisions. And if I fall down, I can rest a bit and then get up and continue.
Most importantly, I have learned to create time for me everyday. This time permits me to express what I am feeling without potentially offending another. I also journal. My successes, my white-gold moments, and my far from medaling moments. In this, I can evaluate my progress.
Health and fitness and athleticism is a journey, that we cannot control. Granted, I can control what I choose to eat, when I get up, when I go to sleep, when I rest, how much work I do, how frequently I exercise, the intensity at which I exercise, and what I do for exercise and activity. But I cannot control so many other things in this journey, that sometimes, the journey doesn't take the course of action I would like.
I have to learn to breath and just enjoy the journey. It is in these unexpected twists and turns that I find the most adventure and the greatest rewards.
Learning to flow and learning to let go of the illusion of control.
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